Students reflect on milestones due to cancer

STUDENTS who are affected by the loss of a family member due to cancer struggle on a daily basis to stay strong and positive. Others are scared of losing those who they are closest to.

Many students may not know how to react at first, and others tend to block out anyone and everyone as a reaction. It is very painful to feel this way and to see others in the same world of hurt. It is also very scary to lose someone you have always been close with and would never imagine losing so fast.

“I was most scared of losing my best friend, my rock, the closest person to me,” freshman JaKaia Lotz said. “My mom and I have been through so much together and she is one of the few people I can rely on.”

For a lot of people, it is very hard to lose anyone that has always been there. For some, it just hurts to see other family members upset.

“My grandma had cancer, my aunt died from cancer, and my other grandma had it,” freshman Aaliyah Baldwin said. “It made me feel even worse because my mom was down and my mom stopped eating because she was really sad.”

After losing someone close to them, a student’s school performance may begin to suffer.

“My mindset didn’t change until she [her grandma] started to get really sick which was last year when I started to do really bad in school, and I was sad a lot which made my grades worse,” freshman Madison Owens said.

When a situation like this happens, it is hard to take it in and accept what has been said.

“As soon as I heard just the word ‘cancer’ I felt as if my world had stopped spinning and it’s extremely overwhelming to just think about it,” Lotz said.

In the midst of such a harrowing experience, it is best to spend time with family.

“When I first found out that she was sick, I would call her every night,” Owens said. “I started texting her in the morning or before I went to bed and stayed the night with her every weekend.”

Having an outlet is very important and helps in many ways, but sometimes it may not be enough to take away the stress of the situation.

I just tried to put my stress into my sports and spend a lot of time with my mom. It was really hard and I didn’t really have ways to get through it.”

— freshman JaKaia Lotz

Sometimes the stress from having cancer may not come so much from worry, but from the fear of becoming a burden to those around you.

“She knew that she was getting more and more sick but didn’t want to tell or worry anyone,” Owens said. ”She just wanted everyone to remain happy and calm.”

Facing the loss of a family member or someone close to you due to cancer is oftentimes a struggle, it’s best to keep moving on in life and stay strong.

“If I had what my mom has, I would tell myself to live my life to the fullest,”  Lotz said. “Nothing is guaranteed and I would tell anyone who is going through this right now to keep pushing, spend as much time with their loved ones as they can, and find outlets to express themselves and try hard to not shut people out.”